The Hand That Helped Me Break the Cycle
The first three times I ever asked for help while living in an abusive relationship, I turned to my father. He was the male figure I believed was supposed to protect me from any harm in my life. But for more than a decade, every time I found the courage to ask for help, the message was the same: the blame was placed on me.
My Story, My Strength
I grew up with pain, guilt, and the responsibility of caring for my siblings. When I was 10, I was sexually abused by my uncle and my grandfather, over and over again. I grew up carrying that burden alone, convincing myself it was normal. My parents’ beatings were part of everyday life. I had no one to trust.
From Rights to Reality
In theory, rights are clear. Women have the right to health, autonomy, identity, and safety. Girls and adolescents have the right to be protected, to be heard, and to grow up in environments that support their well-being. But in practice—especially for immigrant women in the United States—these rights are not always accessible.
Commemorating Women’s Day
People sometimes ask: why do we have a Women’s Day but not a Men’s Day? The answer is simple. Because men have historically held the power. They have been the ones making decisions and shaping the systems. They never needed a special day to be recognized.
Stork: How to transform children’s sex education into a possible conversation
This is the context in which Cigüeña emerged: a card game about children’s sexual health, created so that adults—mothers, fathers, caregivers, educators, and professionals—can learn first, before trying to teach. Because what most of us received as “sex education” were myths, silences, inherited fears, or confusing explanations that never really answered what we needed to know.
My Journey at VIP
Engaging in conversations with friends and family about these issues has been fulfilling. It’s rewarding to be part of a larger community dedicated to holistic advocacy for survivors. Together, we are working towards a better future, and every voice matters.
“Ya te puedes casar”: Food Culture and Intimate Partner Violence
So much of cooking at home is viewed as part of a “woman’s” duty. An ideology entrenched in patriarchy, passed down by not just our fathers, but our matriarchs as well. “Ya te puedes casar” is the compliment one receives after making a delicious meal, usually learned by watching our mothers and grandmothers cook.
Speaker Adams and Councilmembers Ung, Krishnan, and Lee Celebrate New $3 Million Culturally Specific Gender Based Violence Initiative
Today, Councilmembers Ung, Lee and Krishnan rallied with members of The Collective, a coalition of culturally specific gender-based violence service providers serving immigrant and BIPOC survivors in New York City, and other service providers to announce the creation of a new City Council initiative.
Community Rally to Support Legislation Expanding Gender-Based Violence Resources in NYC Hair, Nail, and Skincare Salons
Int. 1216 would require the NYC Office to End Gender-Based Violence to create and distribute informational posters—available in multiple languages—to educate the general public on recognizing the signs of GBV and how those facing it may access support services.
Begin Again
I lived in a hidden world where human evil shows its most atrocious face; but I show the strength to not let myself be defeated, the love for my little son, to embrace him again, to feel his soft face against mine, to see his smile and to fulfill the promise to always take care of him.
